The Damaging Effects of "White Tears" in the Workplace

Black office worker incredulous as white female colleague starts to cry in a meeting.

I got into a conversation about "white tears" with a Jamaican in a gallery on the famous King's Road in London. I can't recall how it started, but I think it had something to do with us being the only Black people in the space. The Jamaican insisted that it's not just women of colour affected by the "white tears" syndrome at work; Black men are also frequently targeted.

He said we are often perceived as more aggressive, making it easy for white women to manipulate the situation by playing the victim and seeking sympathy. In the workplace, Black men often have to walk on eggshells around their white female colleagues because they know how quickly they can take offence and turn on them. White women know their feelings will always carry more weight, so they use this to their advantage, portraying themselves as victims and discrediting their Black male colleagues.

"White tears" is a term used to critique an over-emphasis on the feelings and experiences of white people, particularly women, in situations where people of colour are experiencing discrimination or injustice.

It may sound absurd to those who have never experienced the devastating effects of "white tears," he said. But in the United States, this phenomenon can easily lead to the death of a Black man. However, it's a harsh reality of everyday life for those like me who have lived and worked through it. It only…